Thursday, August 07, 2008

The Break-up: It's Not You, It's Me

I think we need to spend some time apart. It's not you, it's me. I'm at a point in my life where I need a change, I need something new. I think I've gotten the most I can out of this relationship -- I'm realizing I need more. You've been great, though, really. I have so many wonderful memories of our time together, all the fun I had, and how much you taught me. I have no regrets, and I hope we'll stay in touch and always be friends.

And someday, you're going to make another associate very, very happy.

And with that, I'm leaving the firm -- and firm life in general -- and starting a new job with the Biggest Employer of People in This Region (hint: it ain't private industry). I'm excited and sick to my stomach all at the same time. I really love the people I work with, and I like much of the work that I do. And I nearly cried when I had to break the news to those at work I'm closest to. I feel like I'm letting them down, and in some respects, I know I am. But the people I work with -- the good ones, anyway -- understand completely my reasons for leaving. And it really is a good time for me to try something new. I found what I think will be a great job with better hours (and the resultant lower pay, but still a substantial sum) that will teach me things I couldn't learn at the firm. And I won't spend my evenings and weekends thinking about billable hours or originations.

Hope this works out. I'll let you know.


Anonymous Lisa V said...

Congratulations on the next phase.

11:43 PM, August 07, 2008  
Blogger City Girl said...

I am a long-time lurker (and fellow attorney) delurking to say congratulations on your move!

I also write a lifestyle blog (and used to write a beauty blog), so do stop by sometime at!

Congrats again!

2:53 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger K said...

How exciting! Good luck. Do you get any time off between jobs?

7:22 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Phantom Scribbler said...

Oh, mazel tov! I'm thrilled for you! Best of luck on the new job!

9:17 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Lex said...

Good luck, APL! I hope the new gig is everything you want it to be.

9:18 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Infant Attorney said...

I'm a long time lurker, I've been reading your blog for over a year. I've often marveled at your ability to raise children and work at a law firm (I'm a first year associate at a large firm). This sounds exactly like a move I would like to make in the future. I look forward to hearing how this new position will allow for more balance in your life. Good luck!

9:46 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Balancing Act said...

I'll admit that I was leaning on you for support in knowing that the firm/motherhood thing can be done. (A law clerk w/ a 3 month old starting at Huge Firm this fall). But I am totally interested in seeing how you transition from litigation to an in-house position. Hopefully it's just as much fun but you'll have a better quality of life. Looking forward to seeing how it goes.

10:03 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Chorus said...

Good luck to you!

10:11 AM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Musey_Me said...

Good luck in your new position!

1:37 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Quinn said...

Best of luck! May you find your bliss.

5:43 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Songbird said...

APL, I feel sure this will be a great choice! Best of luck in the new job!!

6:47 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger kathy a. said...


8:59 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Blonde Justice said...

Congratulations & Good Luck!

9:32 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Nik said...

Congratulations! May the angry children enjoy your presence and not tussle on your bed on every one of your evenings off (perhaps strike a deal for every other?).

9:58 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger kenju said...


Your sanity and your family will thank you!

11:40 PM, August 08, 2008  
Blogger Suburban Gorgon said...

Hooray for less hours, and hopefully less stress!

12:32 AM, August 09, 2008  
Anonymous nsah said...

Phew! For a second I thought you were dumping me by blog. :)

1:31 AM, August 09, 2008  
Blogger KathyR said...

Congrats on the new relationship!

9:22 AM, August 09, 2008  
Blogger Butterflyfish said...


9:22 AM, August 09, 2008  
Blogger ccw said...

Best of luck to you!!

1:27 PM, August 09, 2008  
Blogger Quinn said...

nsah: that would be so much worse than Britney's text message to K-Fed, eh?

3:06 PM, August 10, 2008  
Blogger Seeking Solace said...

Best wishes to you! I think it's awesome that you found a position that better suits your needs.

I also thought you were going to stop blogging. What a relief!

6:19 PM, August 10, 2008  
Blogger PT-LawMom said...

Wow, go you!! Hope it goes really, really well.

8:14 PM, August 10, 2008  
Blogger M&Co. said...

My guess is you will learn to love it. The thing I hated the most about firm life was the Billable Hour. It makes my skin crawl just thinking about it.

11:03 PM, August 11, 2008  
Blogger Katherine said...

I left practice a few years ago to pursue an "alternative legal career" and it was the best thing I ever did. Huge leap, sure. But ultimately it allowed me to become happy and fulfilled. I highly recommend it! Congrats and good luck!

11:25 AM, August 13, 2008  
Blogger Tom Jones said...

Congrats on coming to work for the man. Depending on what you're doing though, a gov't gig can be just as consuming. It's all a matter of how consuming you let it be. It'll fill your weekends and nights if you let it, and when it does there's only the GS for you there.

The upside is that you get to do really cool shit that sometimes can be moderately important and fun to tell your kids about.

8:55 PM, August 13, 2008  
Blogger liz said...

You know I'm doing the happy dance for you!

11:23 AM, August 14, 2008  
Anonymous Genevieve said...

Oh, hooray!! That is awesome, awesome, awesome!!

I love working for the Region's Biggest Employer. Feel free to talk to me about it. Yay for family time and no tyranny of the billable hour! and for doing good work you can feel good about!

10:43 AM, August 15, 2008  
Blogger Jody said...

Congratulations! I hope you have a blast at the new job with Biggest Employer. And an even bigger blast every weekend.

12:03 PM, August 15, 2008  
Blogger OneTiredEma said...

Good for you! Enjoy your new digs.

3:56 PM, August 19, 2008  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

Congrats! Good luck with the transition.

5:01 PM, August 19, 2008  
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