Monday, November 20, 2006

Taking (losing?) one for the team

First off, thanks for your comments on the last post. Must be Murphy's Law: after that post, the New Kid has been better at sleeping. (Of course, once that sentence is published, it's back to sleeplessness, right?) So I'm feeling only slightly zombified right now.

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A few weeks ago, there was a storyline on Grey's Anatomy involving a male-to-female pre-op transsexual. The patient was born a male, fell in love and married a woman. Then he/she realized he/she needed to be a woman, and had decided to undergo the hormone treatment and, eventually, the sex reassignment surgery (i.e., no more penis). The couple stayed married.

It was a well-acted storyline, but really it made me think of the constitutional amendment recently passed in Virginia. Virginia's Bill of Rights will now ironically read:

That only a union between one man and one woman may be a marriage valid in or recognized by this Commonwealth and its political subdivisions.

So... what does that mean for a couple like the married couple on Grey's? When they married, they were indeed one man and one woman. After the surgery, they will be two women. Sex reassignment surgery isn't common, but it does happen. If Daniel becomes Donna in Virginia, does the marriage instantly dissolve the second the penis is no more? What if Daniel decides not to have the surgery but still goes through life living as a woman, presenting as Donna? Is the marriage OK then, since his penis is still intact? If the marriage is no longer valid, how is it dissolved? Does the state force you to get a divorce? Are all the contracts made while the married couple was man and woman still valid? Are they grandfathered in?

So I was posing these rapid-fire questions to my husband, pointing out the ridiculousness of the new constitutional amendment. What happens if a husband has his penis surgically removed, etc.?

His reply:

"Sweetheart, I agree that the new amendment needs to be challenged and tested, but I'm not that committed."


Blogger honeykbee said...

I'd volunteer my other half to the cause but we're just livin' in sin so we don't qualify. Plus, I doubt he'd go for it either. Always the party pooper.

3:52 PM, November 20, 2006  
Blogger halloweenlover said...

Hurray for more sleep!

I remember that story line well, and you're right, those are interesting points. I'm not sure what would happen, although I'm assuming that the contracts would be grandfathered in. I guess, although it probably depends on which crazy judge you get.

4:18 PM, November 20, 2006  
Blogger SuzanH said...

hahaha! That's hilarious!

I'm sorry you're not getting enough sleep. That completely sucks. I hope that turns around for you soon.

And take your time on blogging - this isn't on demand, it's when you feel it.

5:25 PM, November 20, 2006  
Blogger kenju said...

You'd probably get that answer from at least 85% of men....LOL

I saw that episode and it was very interesting. They didn't really speak to those points either; staying to the emotional side of the relationship. I'd like to see that debated.

6:14 PM, November 20, 2006  
Blogger Vinny said...

Swish! He's perfect for you!

10:00 AM, November 21, 2006  
Blogger Susie Sunshine said...

Here's one: A woman (who used to be a man) marries a man. The husband knows of his wife's past and is okay with it. He dies 11 months later and the husband's family from a prior marriage fights the widow saying it was never a "legal" marriage because she is really a he. (The family won.)

How horrible must it be to not only be born to what feels like the wrong gender, but to never be able to correct it in the eyes of some state laws?

1:25 PM, November 21, 2006  
Anonymous Chandler Bing said...

"Sometimes I wish I were a lesbian... did I say that out loud?"

4:19 AM, November 22, 2006  
Blogger Angry Pregnant Lawyer said...

That's Ms. Chanandler Bong.

8:45 AM, November 22, 2006  

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