Monday, April 03, 2006

Big issue

I think someone from work is reading this blog. I mean, I have a few real-life work friends who read my blog, but that doesn't wig me out at all. If I saw them in person, I'd talk to them about exactly the types of things I write about here. But I'm talking about someone who is not a close friend. Or even an acquaintance. I think this person only has a vague idea about who I am in the workplace. But a couple of newly discovered facts are seriously making me wonder if this person has found this blog and, more importantly, has guessed who I am.

So I don't know what to do. I thought about moving to another URL, sharing the new URL with everyone on my blogroll and then telling others to email me if they wanted to know the new address... but I realized, I would want to keep using the name "Angry Pregnant Lawyer." It's my "brand," as the folks who work in PR like to say. So I would keep calling myself APL and I'd be fairly easy to track down via search engine, wherever my URL might be.

I'll be honest with you, I'm less motivated to write as I think about this new problem.I've never written anything unfavorable about work--quite the contrary, in fact--so I'm not worried about feeling stifled in that regard. But the things I write about here are not always the types of things I'd want people I work with to know about me.

I'm at a loss--unmotivated and kind of sad about the whole thing.

On a happier note, Angry Boy was very good tonight with some out-of-town family members who were in town. After dessert, when it was time for us to leave, he walked around the table giving kisses and hugs (and later high-fives) to everyone...and this group included people he'd never met before. I think he just really comprehends the meaning of "family." Sweet boy.


Anonymous Lisa V said...

Hey I just thought my sister found me this weekend. I took my blog off-line for a little while until I figured it out. It was my cousin. I don't care if he reads it. I had to write a whole post about the whole thing too.

Don't go. How about Pissed Off Gestating Attorney ? What about password protect ?

10:44 PM, April 03, 2006  
Blogger Angry Pregnant Lawyer said...

I read that post you're referring to, Lisa. I considered using a password, but I still want random people to find their way here, especially since I'm on a fair number of blogrolls, including So I'm stumped.

11:02 PM, April 03, 2006  
Blogger Yankee T said...

Shit. Shit,shit,shit. Don't go. I'm beggin' ya'. You don't want an old lady to cry now, do ya'?

On another note, The Attorney and I were driving to work today and we were behind a truck that said, simply, "APL" on it. I loved it!

Now don't go.

11:53 PM, April 03, 2006  
Blogger liz said...

I'm tripling the request for you to stay.

There's nothing you talk about here that I wouldn't talk about to folks at work.


Hugs. More hugs. Biggest of big hugs.

Zoo soon?

12:14 AM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Neel Mehta said...

Keep it. "Angry Pregnant Lawyer" is one of the best legal blog names out there. (Not that you asked, but "Will Work for Favorable Dicta" sucks.)

My suggestion? Do nothing. If people find out, they find out. You haven't said anything that's particularly scandalous or revealing.

Of course, my opinions about anonymity and pseudonymity are pretty unpopular. My name's on the blog, and my URL's on the resume.

3:35 AM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger mc said...

One more vote for you sticking around, APL. The place just wouldn't be the same without you. Though I definitely understand the creeped-out feeling...

7:51 AM, April 04, 2006  
Anonymous KathyR said...

I would hate to lose you, but I get what you are saying.

You have been very circumspect about work and have been the one out of ten lawyers who seems to enjoy her job, so you have no reason to fear being outed or somehow punished for blogging about work.

But you never intended to give your co-workers or, more importantly, your bosses a window into your personal life, your politics, the contents of your iPod. It is a sucky dilemma.

I hope you can find a solution that keeps you here with us. Any point in trying to pin down the person who may have found you out?

9:48 AM, April 04, 2006  
Anonymous nutso-ranter said...

There is clearly only one way to handle this situation...



11:34 AM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Angry Pregnant Lawyer said...

Nutso, you crack me up.

Thanks for the comments on the name, Neel. I really do love it, and I don't feel like giving it up.

Kathy, when I have a chance, I'll send you an email about why I don't want to track this person down for a confrontation. You've kind of hit the nail on the head in your thoughtful comment already, though.

(My word verification: nogod. If you say it fast, it sounds like "no good," as in "no good can come of this...")

11:44 AM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger ccw said...

I hope that you decide to stay, but I undertsand how and why you feel weird. The vagina/penis fetish post is the only one that comes to mind as being a bit too personal for co-workers, but overall there is nothing scandalous (stolen from neel).

1:05 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Phantom Scribbler said...

It's creepy that the person would read your blog without saying anything to you about it. But... please don't go! I'm tearing up just thinking about it.

2:37 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Jessica said...

Although not work related, I recently sent a link to one of my posts to a fellow blogger and inadvertenly CC'd someone from my hometown that I did NOT want reading my blog....

I keep waiting to get an e-mail inquiring about it and I've been checking my statcounter to see if anyone from that tiny town has perused the site, but I know it's not worth relocating my entire blog.

That said, I can completely understand how having people from work read might interfere with your writing/sharing/blogging. I hope it works out for you!

3:36 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger kenju said...

I am sorry you are having that problem. A woman from around here had the same thing happen, and she had to change her name and url and everything. I understand why you wouldn't want to do that. That stinks!

Very sweet when children comprehend the meaning of family. Good for him.

6:05 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger halloweenlover said...

AB is the sweetest. I'm emailing you re: this issue.

6:40 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Angry Pregnant Lawyer said...

Hi, kenju. I had a nice time vicariously having a conversation with you this weekend. :-)

8:04 PM, April 04, 2006  
Anonymous Kristen said...

I put a password on mine when someone landed on it after searching for "nak3d childr3n photos" (I inserted 3's so that this person does not end up here!)

The thought of ANYONE using google for that and ending up on my blog gave me shivers.

That, and my daughter is really private. When she turned 6, I realized that she wouldn't really want me sharing her life with the entire internet. I felt like I needed to respect her privacy, too. With a password, Google doesn't pick it up. (Which just might save our relationship when she is 13!)

That, and I really didn't want co-workers, neighbors, etc. finding it.

It's worked out really well. But I've never aimed for a big audience and it's been really easy to get the password out to anyone who is interested.

good luck.

10:15 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Seeking Solace said...

Don't stop blogging. Worse case is that you have to change you blog site or name. The same thing happened to me.

Please don't go....

10:17 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Blonde Justice said...

Of course I'm another vote for you sticking around.

I deal with the anonymity issue every day. It's a tough one. I hope you decide to stick around.

(BTW, I love WWFFD.)

10:20 PM, April 04, 2006  
Blogger Jessica said...

Oh, that sucks hon! I hope you'll stay around, I really do enjoy reading you. How did you notice that they were reading you? (I'm inept at this blogging thing still....) Do you think they're regularly reading it, or maybe just stumbled upon it?

Either way, good luck, and I hope we see you around here for a very long time!

10:26 PM, April 04, 2006  
Anonymous Bob M said...

APL, I'll miss you if you go.

But I'll understand if you do.

I hope you do what's best for you and your family.

In most cases, blogging is about love, not money. Do what's best for the ones you love.

5:13 AM, April 05, 2006  
Blogger Lawmummy said...

It is weird when people know stuff about you from your blog...

A friend asked me if I ever worried that people that I post about might read my blog. Only my mother and only because she has her own view of reality which doesn't always coincide with mine. But everybody else? I've decided that I am fine with it. I haven't said anything on the blog that I wouldn't say in real life. And you strike me as a pretty straight-shooter...

Don't go changing your blog! (obviously to the tune of "Don't go breaking my heart!"

2:09 PM, April 05, 2006  

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